Thoughts, stories and updates from RopeMarks. Writing about Kinbaku, rope, creativity, teaching, collaboration and the world around it.
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What makes rope playful and pervy?
What makes rope playful, pervy, intimate or controlling? I don't think it is the tie. It is what happens between two people while the rope is being used.
Fancy Getting Tied Up?
Plenty of rope, quite a few ideas, and a need for an extra pair of wrists and ankles. I'm looking for someone who enjoys being tied up, experimenting with Kinbaku, and spending a good afternoon playing with rope.
Latest Writing
It Is Okay to Call It Bondage
Kinbaku can be art. It can be beautiful, intimate, erotic, cruel or playful. But does calling it “art” sometimes make bondage more respectable by washing away what it actually is? Zetsu Nawa’s article on *artwashing kinbaku* gave me a word for something I had been thinking about for years, and triggered another thought about RopeMarks, skill, and what happens between the finished pictures.
Kinbaku: Finding each other in rope
The Shift: Underground to More Public Spaces Kinbaku today isn’t underground like it used to be. It’s not mainstream either, but it’s definitely [...]
Over-engineering (being) in rope
Sometimes people seem very keen on getting precise instructions on how to execute a specific tie (riggers) or how they should feel or act in [...]
Connective Rope or Tying from the Heart?
“Asking a bakushi: “what is the heart of kinbaku?” is like asking an artist, “what is the heart of a paintbrush?” Kinbaku itself has no [...]
Giving, Receiving and Relationality in Kinbaku
Kinbaku - like any other BDSM activity - is relational at its core to me. With relational I mean that things (like kinbaku) never exist [...]
Behind the Scenes of 2023
When I'm writing this we are in the "dark days before Christmas", short days and long nights, an expression that is afaik specifically Dutch. This [...]
What is Japanese about Japanese rope bondage?
It’s time for a guest blog, written by one of RopeMarks’ rope models, the Shady Lady! All perspectives and thoughts in this post are her [...]
Meet the Masters
Meet the masters or as I first intended, meet my peers. I decided on meet the masters, this is my way of showing respect. Over [...]
The History & Myths of Japanese Bondage
I came across an article from Midori. Her article resonated extremely with me, for one that it puts Japanese bondage (kinbaku, shibari) in a realistic context. It's an approach that I support and follow.
