Child free

This month's update in Club RopeMarks a photo serie we did with a photographer so Bob could focus on the bondage and me. We did a suspension with the belly down and half way Bob turns me around so I end up in a sitting position in the air.

We received an e-mail from a couple, we do not now them, inquiring about play parties in Holland. They seemed friendly people, even send us some pictures of them fully dressed in rubber. Halfway the message they talked about not playing that much anymore because they were busy with the children. They wrote that they hoped we would have children soon, because it was fun and we seemed like sweet parents. Although they mend well I get the creeps from remarks like this. First I think you have to be reluctant with remarks like this especially to strangers, because you never now if there is a history of trying to get pregnant but it doesn’t happen or pregnancies going wrong, etc. however that is not the story with us. To be blunt (I am good at that), I just don’t like children that much, I don’t have time for children and I do not want to make time for children. I like my life how it is now, I have a fulltime job as freelance office manager and I have another fulltime job with RopeMarks, which means working in the weekends and evenings and a lot of travel abroad. I am just not the motherly type. If a baby “enters” a room where a lot of women are they all start acting funny, probably their hormones, you see them melt and cooing, and all I can think about is “I hope it doesn’t start crying”.

I only start doing funny when I see kittens! As you know we have three lovely cats Mickey (16), Boris (11) and Neko (3). But we have a new kitten on the block; her name is Luci and she is (like I am at the moment) a red head. I was looking for a kitten, because it is hard to place an adult cat in a house where already 3 adult cats are. We went to the animal asylum, but they didn’t have kittens. It was my first time there and it is the most depressing place I have ever been! It is summer time, so their busiest time of the year. So many cats and dogs! I had tears in my eyes and had to cry on the way back home in the car. If I had a big house and more time I would adopt a few more and give them a good home. What are people thinking when they bring their pet to the asylum? Probably they didn’t think about what it means to have a pet in the first place. And a lot of people still feel superior above animals (and sometimes even each other).

This blog has no photos like normal, because my hard disk crashed :( I had a back-up, but before everything is in place it takes a couple of weeks. I bought an extra external harddisk to solve this problem with possible future disk crashes.

P.s. Some people misread my column, but I do not hate children, I just don't believe in getting children because you have to, because everybody else does. I think I would be a lousy parent and that would not be good for the kid and it is to big risk to try it out. But my idea for the column topic started with this; that you never have to explain why you do want children, but you do have to explain why you don't want children. Having children is as selfish as not having children. So what?!

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